I'd like to. It's been kind of hard not saying anything about it, honestly... But if you want to wait or keep it quiet, I don't mind. I do think we should tell Elda before anyone else, though.
It's not like I'd mind talking to her about it, but I'm not sure I really know how to break it to her. We could both tell her, but honestly I'm not sure if that would be better or worse.
I don't think she'll take it badly or anything of the sort, but I'm sure it'll be a little odd for her to hear.
...She's often had difficulty with the fact that she never married or had family of her own. We were also together for a fairly long time, despite the fact that we both acknowledged nothing would come of it.
Yes, I'm worried about it for both of those reasons. I can only imagine how lonely she feels with both her sons off the network now. I've been wondering if she's doing okay...
She's a very strong person, and I have no doubts she'll be happy for both of us. But it could be a bit difficult for her to get used to.
She tends to handle things differently than I do. I admit I can't always read her very well... I know she tries to change her approach to something she thinks I'll like better once in a while, and results tend to be a bit mixed in that regard.
Usually whenever we talk about anything serious we both get very emotional. It's... not necessarily bad, but it isn't really the approach I like to take. I get worked up easy, calming myself down is always the problem.
It'll be okay, though. She really does care about you, and I'm sure she wants you to be happy. It may be difficult for her to hear, but I'm sure she'll want to do everything she can to continue to support you.
It's something I've felt guilty about in the past... It isn't my fault, nor is it hers, and I acknowledge that. We just aren't compatible people in that way, and we both know it.
I do feel somewhat guilty about it anyway, however. That I couldn't give her what she wanted.
[It feels...strange, to admit this to Jaeger; just the same, it's entirely true - he doesn't tend to feel guilty for anything, it's incredibly rare when he does, so this has been odd for him, really.]
I understand. Sometimes things end up like that, but that doesn't make it any less unfortunate. It's difficult for both of you, in different ways. I want to tell you that you shouldn't feel guilty about it because it certainly isn't anyone's fault, but it's hard to just stop feeling like that.
I really do hope Elda finds happiness, in whatever form it may take for her.
No, it's okay. I always want to know what's on your mind. I'm... not entirely sure what to say about this, but I'm glad you're willing to talk about it with me.
It doesn't affect my feelings towards you - I don't regret anything about this, and I do want to pursue it further, and I want to be with you for as long as I can be. The situation is just...complicated, and it's something that I think about from time to time.
She's been important to me for a long time. I...did want to make her happy; it's why I was with her for so long, despite knowing that it was going nowhere. We weren't always good to each other about it, and we're much closer now that we aren't together like that, but it still feels...strange to me, I don't know. As though I didn't try enough for her, perhaps.
It's not fair to think of it that way. You did what you could while you two were together, ja? You can't force something like that. Even if you tried, she would be able to tell. It's difficult though, isn't it?
[He's quiet for a moment once that's out there; when he continues, it's awkward.]
Last year, when we agreed to...stop seeing each other, she implied that she knew I was with her because I felt obligated to stay. That I remained with her because I was trying to be kind to her and look out for her in my own way, and because I felt I had a responsibility toward her, and that I would likely continue to try for her even though I knew we were incompatible.
So she could tell. She knew I was trying, and that I was doing what I could for her, but she could tell.
She's a smart woman, I'm not surprised to hear that. It still wasn't easy though, right? You did what you could for her, and in the end things didn't work out. It's unfortunate, but it's really nice that you two have remained close despite it.
It's as I said - we're much closer now than we were then, really. But it wasn't particularly easy at the time, and I suppose it's something that's still troubling me on some level.
I don't miss the relationship at all, and it isn't anything I would ever want again. But I do love her - it's just not in a way that's going to make her happy.
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